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Archive for the month “March, 2014”

Midday blog: Feeling Anxiety for Our Needy Loved Ones

If you are the parent, spouse, friend, or care giver of someone who is needy, see if you identify with these thoughts from Frederick Buechner in his book, Telling Secrets. He writes about his daughter’s very serious eating disorder and his varied responses:

– I wasn’t living my own life any more because I was so caught up in hers.

– She had given up food. I had virtually given up doing anything in the way of feeding myself humanly. To be at peace is to have peace inside yourself more or less in spite of what is going on outside yourself. In that sense I had no peace at all. If one particular day she took it into her head have a slice of toast, say with her dietician supper I was in seventh heaven. If on some other day she decided to have no supper at all, I was in hell.

– The love I had for my daughter was lost in the anxiety I had for my daughter.

Here’s a prayer I found online that might help to express to God the anxiety you feel for your needy person:

“I intercede for _____who is in ______,  struggling with issues relating to _________. I feel extremely frightened and worried and it is overwhelming me in my daily life.”

“Please help _____ with self esteem and self confidence and _________,  and I plead for the guidance of the Holy Spirit for her to choose ________,  to  be honest with me, surrounded by the people who will love and guide her in the right direction. I love_______ unconditionally. She won’t confide in anyone. Holy Spirit please pour out your blessings on ________.”

The peace of the Lord go with you, friend.

 

Melinda Schmidt

Melinda Schmidt is a graduate of Moody Bible Institute and holds a Broadcasting/Bible degree from Calvary Bible College. She has served with Moody Radio since 1980 in various hosting capacities. Married with two young adult children, Melinda lives outside Chicago, loves reading, developing her creative interests and hopes to be a life-long learner. Twitter: @melindaschmidt

Midday blog: Authentic Relationships, Part 1

All I wanted was a friend. A best friend. My family had just moved from Northern Maine to suburban Philadelphia after my 5th birthday. Friends, I thought, I‘d finally have friends. Who doesn’t want a best friend, or desire a lifelong friend? You know, the kind you make in kindergarten who stays loyal and true for a lifetime.

I don’t know about you, but I never found a ‘best friend’ or ‘lifelong friend’. As a Pastor’s kid who moved several times in my lifetime, most of my relationships didn’t move with me. In adulthood I have a tapestry of friends who are crisscrossed around the country. The deeper question, though, is how many of those who have woven themselves into my life am I authentic with? How many do I communicate with about the real stuff of life?

The deep heart cry of most women I meet has to do with relationships. Most of us have amassed a long list of acquaintances that we pass off as friends. We throw around the term ‘community’ yet I think a deep experience of it is elusive for most of us. So how do we develop authentic relationships? How do we know others and allow ourselves to be known? Just so you know, I’m a fellow traveler on this journey.

Going deeper in relationships takes risk. If you are new to a church or workplace the risk might be asking someone out for coffee. If you are already in a relationship that seems stalled, maybe it’s taking a risk to share something deeper about yourself that might open the doorway for your friend to start sharing. It might be committing to pray for a friend to come into your life. God does hear those deep heart cries. The work of friendship, yes work, also requires some action on our part.

What will you do this week that might move you toward developing or deepening a friendship?

Anita LustreaAnita Lustrea is a graduate of Moody Bible Institute and has worked for Moody Radio since 1984. She is a sought-after conference and retreat speaker and loves to connect with Midday Connection listeners face-to-face. Anita lives in the Chicago suburbs with her husband, Mike, and her son, John. To learn more about Anita, her speaking schedule and her blog, please visit her website.

Midday blog: Good Samaritan

As I’ve heard Anita talk about the release of her novel that she wrote with Caryn Rivadeniera called Shades of Mercy, she has said that the book addresses, “Who is my neighbor?”  That got me thinking, so the other day, I read Luke chapter 10.  And there I read about the religious leader who asked Jesus that very question… Then Jesus answered by telling the parable about the good Samaritan.  I was struck again at the sacrifice of time and money that the Samaritan gave.  It made me think – Do I have the margin in my life to give like he did?  Or (a bigger issue for me), am I willing to have my plans derailed when something more important arises?  Do I recognize that greater importance or am I too stuck on my to do list to deviate?  I thought about this as I passed a homeless man on my way to work.  Am I willing to stop and say hello and risk an uncomfortable few minutes to buy him a meal?  I thought about this as I waded through the crowd of morning train commuters.  Am I seeing people as God’s image bearers, each with their own stories or do I see them as annoying delays in my way?  I’m sitting with this parable for a while.  I’m beginning to see it as more than just doing more and serving more, but it’s also a deeper attitude of respect, honor and dignity toward our fellow humans.

Take a couple of minutes and read Luke 10:30-37. There’s a lot in this parable. What do you sense God bringing to your attention?

Lori Neff

Lori Neff is the senior producer of Midday Connection and editor/contributor for Daily Seeds: From Women Who Walk in Faith and Tending the Soul (Moody Publishers). She grew up in a small town in Ohio, spending more time outside in nature than inside. Lori is a graduate of Moody Bible Institute and she’s currently in school again studying counseling and spiritual direction. Her interests include art, humanitarian aid efforts, cooking, gardening, coffee, thinking, learning and spending time with her husband, John (and their three fiesty cats). For more information and her blog please visit Lori’s website.

Midday blog: Keep Calm and Sparkle On: Gathered Thoughts

*Our Producer, Lori, got me on to this lovely-hearted blog. Topics: depression, Down Syndrome, autism, imperfection, mom-ing. I liked this quote from the blog: “In my silence, my life becomes small and lonely.” The nudge toward vulnerability, and sharing life in a community.  http://www.gillianmarchenko.com/

*I’ve started to do something that has helped to brighten my days: every morning I don’t get out of bed until I count 30 things I am thankful for on my fingers. Sometimes during the day I remember to keep it going, “That’s 41, 42, 43….” Kinda fun, and seems to add some kind of magic to the day. My suggestion is to not make it a serious project.

*This blew me away – it’s revealing about the way Christians view gays. God, help us to grow up, spiritually. (Prov. 29:25) http://tinyurl.com/knvdofe

* I liked this quote from Davis Bunn: “Will you be defined by inertia, or will you get started? You can always change direction.” There’s inspiration and hope in that, I think. And permission to risk!  He’s the author of The Turning which releases next month. http://www.TheTurningBook.com

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*Finally, you know I’m crazy about my 6 1/2 pound MinPin/long-haired Chihuahua, Pippa. Look-she made the cover of Dogue!

Melinda Schmidt is a graduate of Moody Bible Institute and holds a Broadcasting/Bible degree from Calvary Bible College. She has served with Moody Radio since 1980 in various hosting capacities. Married with two young adult children, Melinda lives outside Chicago, loves reading, developing her creative interests and hopes to be a life-long learner. Twitter: @melindaschmidtMelinda Schmidt

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