If you are the parent, spouse, friend, or care giver of someone who is needy, see if you identify with these thoughts from Frederick Buechner in his book, Telling Secrets. He writes about his daughter’s very serious eating disorder and his varied responses:
– I wasn’t living my own life any more because I was so caught up in hers.
– She had given up food. I had virtually given up doing anything in the way of feeding myself humanly. To be at peace is to have peace inside yourself more or less in spite of what is going on outside yourself. In that sense I had no peace at all. If one particular day she took it into her head have a slice of toast, say with her dietician supper I was in seventh heaven. If on some other day she decided to have no supper at all, I was in hell.
– The love I had for my daughter was lost in the anxiety I had for my daughter.
Here’s a prayer I found online that might help to express to God the anxiety you feel for your needy person:
“I intercede for _____who is in ______, struggling with issues relating to _________. I feel extremely frightened and worried and it is overwhelming me in my daily life.”
“Please help _____ with self esteem and self confidence and _________, and I plead for the guidance of the Holy Spirit for her to choose ________, to be honest with me, surrounded by the people who will love and guide her in the right direction. I love_______ unconditionally. She won’t confide in anyone. Holy Spirit please pour out your blessings on ________.”
The peace of the Lord go with you, friend.
Melinda Schmidt is a graduate of Moody Bible Institute and holds a Broadcasting/Bible degree from Calvary Bible College. She has served with Moody Radio since 1980 in various hosting capacities. Married with two young adult children, Melinda lives outside Chicago, loves reading, developing her creative interests and hopes to be a life-long learner. Twitter: @melindaschmidt